What matters when falling in love?

I often find that when we're on the search for love, we can go down the Tinder-lined path, where we value sexual attraction first (and hope to find someone awesome under the wrapping), or the E-Harmony route where we value compatibility first (and hope to really fancy their pants off later).

I've found that what we find harder to judge, or at least harder to establish, is the crucial question of whether we're all on the same page.

Romantic fiction sells us the idea that if we just meet 'the one' nothing else will matter. Distance, relationship status, life outlook; nothing will stand in true love's way.

Certainly it can happen that way, however I'm perhaps a tad too fond of saying,"Love isn't enough".

Whether you both want the same sort of future, on the same sort of time scale, in the same sort of lifestyle actually matters more than we perhaps give credit to. We seem to ask these sort of questions much further down the line, after we've worked out whether we fancy each other, or get on well. However, if you're someone with quite a clear plan for your own happiness, maybe we need to give more weight to these life style factors.

When did you figure out whether you were on the same page as your partner? Have you ever found it out too late? How much of it matters? Could you compromise on having children? On moving away? On splashing the cash versus saving regularly? Visiting the in-laws every weekend? How you want to spend your days matter, and falling in love with someone who doesn't share your vision can be pretty risky.