They always say time changes things, but you actually have to change them yourself.
To change what you get you must change who you are.
"I wish I had your motivation", is a phrase I have heard a few times, often to do with my change in lifestyle and eating habits, but sometimes in relation to my business too. But I guess what people fail to remember is that motivation can't be ordered on amazon, to arrive ready to opened and worn to the gym. Marketing can try and convince us otherwise, I'm surely not the only one who has used the rationalisation that buying something new will get me more motivated to make changes. That sort of motivation is usually pretty short lived, those £120 trainers may get you running once or twice, but their sparkling appeal quickly dulls.
Andy Warhol's quote emphasises the need to take responsbility for ourselves and our choices. Conversely that means calling time on our own bullsh*t excuses. Excuses are just ways of shirking the acceptance of our own choices.
Vernon Howard reminds us that we cannot keep repeating the same choices and actions, and expect a different outcome. If you want to change your body, you will have to change how you treat it. If you return to your old habits, the old outcomes with return. You need to accept that you will consistently make difference choices if you want to be changed.
Change isn't always easy, there are multi billion dollar industries that want to sell us products and ideas that don't always sit correctly with their changes you wish to see. Recent beliefs that I've had to change include:
- You celebrate birthdays and events with cake.
- If you deserve a treat, you shouldn't have to deny yourself from fatty foods. You deserve it.
- There are set times for eating. Routines need to followed.
- Hunger is dangerous. This one needs a little explanation I think, as I'm not advocating hunger! However, I used to eat in advance of hunger, so if I thought I may get hungry in two hours, I'd eat before leaving, to make double sure I wouldn't get hungry. This seems to forget the crucial fact that I live in a society where food is plentiful. It also forgets that if, god forbid, I started edging to a small amount of hunger, that I am still able to function. Low-level hunger tells you its time to eat, rather than needing to be consistently full. If I'm hungry I eat. I've worked on not eating, if I'm not hungry.
Change starts from a firm decision. Not waiting to suddenly feeling motivated (it rarely happens that way), but just behaving as if you were motivated. Motivation is a choice, rather than a feeling.