If you thought the rejection of online dating was tough, you haven't tried to find a house to share. Blimey it's hard on the soul!
Similarly to Tinder, you can waste hours browsing rooms, trying to judge the type of household you'd be moving into. You make dates for viewings, but when you're being interviewed as a potential housemate, they've viewing you much more than you're viewing the room.
Most probably they've scheduled a whole day or evening of potential housemates, where you'll be placed upon a conveyor belt of judgement. They'll ask about your job, maybe about how tidy you are (always say you are!) and how much furniture you own.
Like a first date, you'll part ways usually with a vague,"I'll let you know!", or "I've got a few more viewings and I'll be in touch!".
Like a first date you'll have an anxious wait to hear what they thought of you. Maybe they'll text, or email, or maybe not at all.
I recently went for 3 viewings, liked them all, and got rejected for all 3. It seems that the housemate version of "It's not you, it's me," is "I've decided to rent it to my friends, sorry".
5 ways house viewings are worse than first dates
1. House viewings can be as short as 5 minutes. You may well have traveled quite a distance, and a 5 minute walk around a dingy flat can feel like a massive waste of time. At least a quick date usually involves a drink or two.
2. You're trying to predict what you'll be happy with for basically the next twelve months, in a very short period of time. As least with dating you get to repeat the trial run a few times before committing!
3. House viewings are usually done with a strict time limit, set by your current lease being up, and therefore your choice always has a sense of urgency and panic. We can be happy single, but not happily homeless.
4. Being rejected as a potential flatmate sucks. You only have a short time to set a good impressions, and you're not even sure what they're looking for. Being turned down means they didn't pick you to live with. This has a slight sting; who on earth wouldn't want to share with me?!
5.Making a choice about which room to move into often involves a compromise. Many of us don't have the luxury of being able to live with exactly who we want, where we want, at the price we want. Dating doesn't need the same "Suck it up" attitude. We can wait for the whole package.
Luckily I found a place in the end, without housemates who had to pick me! I'm pleased, as this next place seems like it could be exactly the right fit for me. Watch this space!