Having been single much more than being in a relationship in my adult life, I've heard my fair share of dating advice. The one piece of advice that I hear over and over and hate the most is to not look so hard.
There is a romantic notion that I'm more likely to find my mate if I stop looking, and stop trying so hard. As if I ooze desperation which is keeping men away at a safe distance from commitment.
I'd love to hear when else this advice would ever work. Looking for a new job? Send out fewer CVs. Need new work shoes in the sale? Don't look in as many shoe shops. Want to publish a book? Just don't write as often.
I'm a proactive person, and if I want something, I do my best to make it happen. It seems to be somewhat taboo to admit wanting a relationship, but I do, and I'm not ashamed to say so. I am happy single, I don't cry myself to sleep alone at night, nor do I think a relationship will fix me, or save me. I'm fixing and saving myself just fine. My life is full of joy just as it is.
I'm just ready. I'm ready to be part of a team of two, and looking for it just increases my chances of finding it. Yes, sometimes meeting someone happens when you don't expect it; at a party, in the bus queue or a friend of a friend. Being proactive and dating actively just increases the odds; meeting people you wouldn't ever usually meet in any other circumstance.
So, yes, I believe in looking for something if you're hoping to find it. I'm having fun along the way, and taking control of my own destiny - there's really nothing to lose!
I'm excited to have our first guest hairstylist at Rockalily Styles (our blow dry and styling bar a few doors down from the main salon Rockalily Cuts) - the bleedin' fabulous Flamingo Amy.
Despite having never met Amy, she's one of the online people who I feel like I know, having chatted online for years, and her work has always blown me away.
She has worked for brands such as Tatty Devine and Tara Starlet, and people like Gizzi Erskine, William Vintage and Vogue Italia.com.
It's been pretty tricky finding a date that we could arrange, as Flamingo Amy is a busy lady, but we finally settled on Saturday October 18th, so if you fancy the opportunity to have Amy style your hair in London (she works in Norwich) then do book in asap to avoid disappointment.
Amy specialises in vintage hair naturally, but definitely has a beautiful knack for 20s and 30s hair, if you've ever fancied trying that for a special occasion.
Amy says: "I love my job as I am always doing something different and it's great to help someone feel amazing for a night out or other event and this is when I find my job the most satisfying. I am really excited about guesting at Rockalilly and have followed ReeRee's journey with the salon (and her lipstick brand before that!) from the beginning. I can't wait to bring my own style of hair-up to East London."
And we'd love to see you there!
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I was recently asked to try a new app called snupps (you can view my profile here), which seems to be a blend of pinterest and instagram. I'm a bit of an internet geek, and social media addict so of course I said yes!
Although snupps certainly seems to have a social element in that you can follow people, and 'wow' their pictures, it wasn't created with that focus.
Snupps was created as a way to basically inventory your stuff. Pinterest is largely mood boards of inspiration, or things that you dream of, and instagram offers snapshots of our lives, in that moment. Snupps aims to be allow us to access basically an instagram of things we actually already own.
Initially it was born from the need to track lost items for an insurance claim, but now has users using their snupp 'shelves' for a variety of mixed uses.
I had a ponder as to how I could use it, and created three shelves to give it a play.
I read an interesting small business case study on the snupps blog, about a woman who crafts, and she inventories all of her supplies, so that she knows what she has, and can search by keyword etc. You could also drag and drop an item once you'd used it, perhaps to a shopping list shelf to replace it?
They talk on their website about being able to drag and drop items on shelves, for example, if you had all of your clothes on a shelf, you could drag and drop items you moved into storage, or took on holiday. I haven't actually managed to find out how to do that just yet, perhaps its only on the app version! (I've been using the web version as it's not yet on android).
The app was launched with $5m investment (blimey!) so it will be interesting to see whether it becomes another regular feature of our lives! What would you create personal inventories of?
I feel rather dowdy today, perhaps I need to get rid of these trousers. They don't make me feel awesome, and I do try and stick to the mantra of dressing to feel ace.
Today I was lucky enough to be offered a London Fashion Week blow dry at Premier Models with Wella. Wella are promoting a new temporary colour called Wella Instamatic, which I'll certainly be keeping an eye out for to give a go in the salon too!
Getting your hair washed and blown dry is always such a great opportunity to just treat yourself to an hour away from your real life. Having swishy hair always makes the world seem a little bit better.
I felt a bit guilty this morning, turning up with my weave post a busy weekend and a 10k run, but like any good hairdresser, my lovely stylist didn't allow my guilt to last long. We're meant to go to a hairdresser when our hair isn't very nice, otherwise they'd be no point in going!
If you fancy a wash and blow dry you could always try our blowdry bar, where a blowdry is £25