The real reason people hate wearing glasses

I remember the moment when I realised I needed glasses, I was 18, and sat in an A-Level Psychology class. I complained to my tutor that the OHP (yup I'm that old) was out of focus. My class sighed and told me it wasn't. My friend Bobbie passed over her glasses for me to try, and boom, the world was in focus.

Off I trotted to the opticians, and got myself my free NHS glasses. They were pretty hideous. I wore them for TV and for when distance was necessary. I became the friend who said, "Meet me outside the bar as I won't be able to find you inside", because the world was too blurry. I couldn't tell what bus number it was, until it had pulled up at the bus stop. I hated my glasses, and as soon as I figured I could afford it, I invested in contact lenses.

At university I wore a mixture of glasses and contact lenses, still hating my glasses. They made me feel ugly. Boys don't make passes at girls who wear glasses etc. Everything I heard about glasses was pretty negative. Brides didn't wear glasses. Women in adverts didn't wear glasses. Ugly people wore glasses, right up until the scene where they become pretty and get contact lenses.

About 8 years ago (something like that, perhaps longer!) I started dressing more 'alternatively' and started wearnig vintage glasses. This completely changed my relationship with my glasses, and I started wearing my contacts less and less. My glasses became another accessory, like my shoes, bags and jewellery. They shared the same perks; you can wear your favourite every day, they always fit, and they completely change an outfit.

I've owned so many glasses over the years, and I currently have about 8-10 I wear regularly. I no longer wear contact lenses, and I actually feel like my face looks naked without glasses. They give me even more control over my face than make-up alone, I get to create whoever I want to be each day. They have the added bonus of allowing me to see!

I've had people ask me if I'd have laser eye surgery if it was offered, but I think I'd only do it if I could replace all of my glasses with clear lenses. It would be nice to be able to see in the shower, but I really prefer my face with glasses.

The real reason that people hate wearing glasses is that hey don't buy the right glasses. They go into the opticians, and buy the first pair they see, or the cheapest they can find. They only buy one pair, yet they don't only wear one pair of shoes, or one jumper. They'd get bored. They don't invest the energy into finding the glasses that make their faces even more kickarse. Glasses shouldn't feel like a necessary evil, they should feel like a brand new handbag, or fancy new trainers.

This post was kindly sponsored by SmartBuyGlasses, who gifted me these pretty swish Dolce and Gabbana catseye glasses. As ever, when I accept a product for review, my thoughts are my own. I've blogged about my obsession with glasses for years, and they were a perfect fit for me. What I also really enjoyed on their site was that I could search by "Cats Eye", ideal for a vintage fan like me.

Best Salon in Shoreditch?

Shoreditch is full of some incredible hair salons, and I'm proud to be part of a neighbourhood that has such high standards! 

We're the home of cat cafes, cereal cafes and vegan chicken shops. We have tattoo shops galore, bars, clubs and flower markets. We're a fun, colourful and creative hub, home to many of the world's biggest brands.

best salon in shoreditch

Rockalily Cuts has been in Shoreditch for 5 years now, and continues to specialise in rainbow hair colours, vintage styling and a space to just chill the fuck out.

We're a tad sweary, love a hot coffee, and just love welcoming people into our little corner of the world. We do haircuts, regular colours and highlights too.....but we do love a cracking open the rainbow! 

best hairdresser shoreditch

I'm often asked if we only do crazy colours and bold haircuts, but we honestly don't. We certainly specialise in these, but we also have clients who have brunette roots redone every 6 weeks, or blonde highlights every 2 months. 

We have a lot of clients who travel pretty far to visit us, and being in Shoreditch is ideal for a fun day out in London. We're often recommending bars or places to visit after their appointment. Being so close to Liverpool Street means we're accessible from outside of London.

best hair salon in shoreditch

Rockalily Cuts is possibly the smallest salon of its type, which means you are in an intimate and up-close environment, we tend to share our life stories while the colour takes! Certainly not being ignored in the corner of an empty salon here!

Iconic London Pro Evo Sculpt Brush Review

Up until last month I've been a happy 'apply-with-fingers' foundation kind of woman. However, as I've entered the world of more hardcore foundations, I've found the finish just wasn't very good. It would get patchy and separate on my skin, despite moisturising and using a primer.

So I started using a Real Techniques sponge, and have definitely noticed an improvement in application. I got offered an Iconic London Pro Evo Sculpt Brush, and was keen to see if a £32.99 brush would be worth the hype. As ever, this was sent to me, but my opinions are my own.

pro evo brush review

Now, granted, technically this isn't a foundation brush, its a brush for contouring but I'm a rule breaker....so here goes.

I started by applying  some Urban Decay All-Nighter foundation onto my face, ready for buffing in. You can see in this photo my most challenging area - my cheek has a type of acne roscacea, which is a permanent red and bumpy area. I buffed the foundation on, and loved how soft the bristles are.

Ha ha, I got a little carried away, and smudged a lot of my eye makeup with the brush. It is certainly harder to control a large brush rather than a sponge or fingers, but I'm sure I won't make the error in judgement again!

I applied my eyebrows and blush and I'm good to go. I was really happy with the application. It made the cream have an almost powder appearance (which I like). It didn't clump, and was really quick to use. I'm going to use it for a few days, see how it wears, and how easy it is to keep the brush clean. So watch this space, I'll add some more notes in a few days!

I bought more Crocs. They're not as hideous as you'd think.

crocs review 2017

I wear Crocs. I shared two years ago when I bought these black shoes, which are still going strong! I also bought two more pairs two years ago, some rainbow heels and some green ballet flats.

crocs heels 2017

I have chronic back issues. I can't sit in chairs really (I have to use a kneeling chair to work from), and I have to manage my body around it. But such is life. So I stay away from heels. Heels hurt most people, but they hurt my back more than they hurt my feet. I just realised that men don't hobble around in painful shoes, suffering for their beauty, and so I should refuse to too. Life is too short to have shoes that hurt.

Anyhow, I've loved my black Crocs for two years (everyone is always amazed when I tell people they are Crocs) and I decided to treat myself to some new ones for 2017. 

crocs Womens Isabella Sandal

You can see they don't have that clunky Crocs sole, and after 3 days of cutting in at the back, they've softened up to as bouncey as my black ones, and I'm happily marching about in them. They give my back just the support it needs, I recently bought some flat shoes after being refused entry to The Ritz and they're hideous for me to wear.  Just no support going on.

Crocs may not be super cool, but having uncomfortable shoes isn't an ace idea either. 

Try and be kinder.

Social media gives us all a voice, to be heard and get validated. It also gives us insight into how other people think, and how they make their choices. What I find sad, is how quick some people seem to be to jump to the worst conclusion, to one that places them up above everyone else.

Let me give an example. Someone on twitter shares that a friend has let them down. Or a customer was rude. Or a client cancelled an appointment. There seems to be a quick leap to, "Fuck them,", "They're not worth your time,", "You deserve better."

What I wish more people could remember, is that most people are fighting their own battle. The battle may be massive like a family member being terminally ill, or smaller like a relationship breakdown. Perhaps they've just had a horrible meeting with their boss, or haven't slept a wink due to a new baby. Or maybe they feel trapped in a job they hate, or live in a place they feel uncomfortable in. Life gets shitty, and it gets hard.

I'm not advocating being a doormat, and letting people treat you like crap. Boundaries should be set. However there is a big difference to seeing "That person let me down because they're overwhelmed right now," and "Everyone lets me down. What's wrong with them, and what's wrong with me?". 

When in doubt, choose kindness. It doesn't even matter if its true. Maybe that person is really just a bitch. But filling your own brain with more positive and understanding thoughts is never a bad choice. You'll start seeing more good in the world. Cheesey and lame perhaps but it doesn't mean it isn't true.

As an aside, I've been a little sadder recently. Nothing dramatic, but enough that I have less to share online at the moment. I cry a little more often. I don't need sympathy, I'm just sharing to remind people that life gets hard sometimes, and we don't always know about it. We're all rocking to work, slapping on make up and getting on with life. Life is just like that sometimes. It always passes, and we always bounce back. So maybe that person who barges you on the bus is just having a really shitty time. They're lost in their own thoughts. Maybe that person who cancels their appointment just feels like they don't quite have the energy or they just forgot. Their brain feels a little too full. Sadness doesn't excuse bad behaviour, but it can allow a bit of forgiveness.

Super Quick Bumper Bang Rockabilly Hair Tutorial

rockalily bumper bang tutorial

Recently I've started to find my inner badass again. I got a little lax with my dress, but I've always believed how we dress massively impacts how we feel. I was feeling overwhelmed and I'd gained weight. So I dressed more casual. I felt more casual. But slowly "Vegas Ree" is returning. The bumper bang is a small but critical return to dressing how I feel best. It makes quick and casual hair look killer instead!

I was asked how I do a bumper bang, so I instagram-storied it. I was amazed at how many messages I got from women saying they found it really useful and wanted to give it a go, so I decided to save it to Youtube to make it live longer than 24 hours.

I know you're not meant to double-dip like that, but sod it. I break rules. So here it is, my instagram story on youtube. Sue me.

Rainbow hair in London - What to expect!

Dreaming of rainbow hair? Of embracing your inner unicorn? Always wanted to try mermaid hair? The trend for vivids (rainbow colours) isn't going anywhere, so we're here to answer your burning questions, and help you prepare for your next hair adventure!

1. Unless you're blessed with very light hair, your hair will need bleaching before your rainbow colour can be applied. This means your hair will need to be in good enough condition to take some bleaching. Olaplex in your bleach definitely helps (we love it here at Rockalily Cuts) but it isn't a magic wand.

2. Our hair never forgets, so that black dye you had on it 3 years ago will rear it's ugly head during the lifting process. The end result will depend on how light your hair lifts, you may have to go with bolder colours at first, as your hair may not be light enough for pastels.

3. The colour will fade, and rub off onto things. Some colours are better than others for this, but generally you'll have to embrace some colour on your pillow cases and white shirts. This isn't acceptable for some people, but I just embrace it, the fun colours are worth it!

4. The colours will change as you wash them. If you want them to last as long as possible, use cooler water, and a sulphate free shampoo and conditioner. Wash your hair less often. A lot of our customers manage once a week. Dry shampoo will become your friend.

5. You can top up your vivids by adding some into your conditioner, and applying in the shower. We'll always advise you during your appointment about this.

If you have any questions about booking an appointment for rainbow hair, do feel free to reach out and get in touch!      

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